The Book How to Stop Worrying and Start Living is Written by Del Carnegie. In How to Stop Worrying and Start Living the author tell us the way that can help us to minimize our stress and improve our living standard.
Before we learn how to stop worrying and start living, before that we will see that if you worry, it can affect your health.
Many companies conduct surveys and go home and ask what disease do you have, but no one surveys what do you worry about?
Dr. Alexis Carrel, who has received the Nobel Prize in medicine, tells that businessmen who do not know how to fight with anxiety, they die at the age of youth.
Fear creates anxiety and anxiety affects stress and nervous system of your brain due to which gastric juice of your stomach becomes abnormal, which can cause blisters in your stomach.
Anxiety can cause heart disease, insomnia, headache, and many types of paralysis.
What if you get the whole world and lose your health. Even after getting the whole world, you will only be able to sleep on the same bed at one time and eat only three meals a day.
Our medical science has a cure for many diseases, but there is no cure for fear, hate, frustration and anxiety.
So now we know how you can avoid incurable disease like anxiety
Identify the Concern
The biggest reason for worrying is confusion, so we have to first identify your concern, for that you have to ask yourself these two questions.
1. What am I worrying about?
2. What can I do for it?
Write it on one of your books and after you know what to do, think about it and start doing it immediately, do not just sit back and think about the problem.
70% of Your Concern
70% of your worries are about money, many people think that if they become more rich then they will be happy and never worry but this is not true.
As we become wealthier, we start worrying more because we do not know how to use our money properly, write down the following some rules for how to use your money or how to manage it:
Rule 1: You should know where your money is being spent, so you should make a budget for your money every month.
Rule 2: You should avoid spending money unnecessarily and you should purchase only what you need. For this habit, you can try to live one month without that thing that you are planning to buy, if your work is going on without it than avoid it to buy. This may help you to stop spending money unnecessarily.
Rule 3: As your salary increases, you increase your expenses, which you should not do and spend wisely.
Rule 4: Insure yourself to avoid illness, any loss, and emergency expenses, but never take life insurance.
Rule 5: Teach your children to use money properly from a young age and never spend money unnecessarily in front of them.
Now we learn how to give up the habit of worrying
Live in Today
Dr. Osler says that our main business is not what the distant blur looks but it should be that what is clearly visible.
It means to say that you should not think daily what happened yesterday or what will happen in the coming tomorrow, rather you should live completely in today and think about today only.
This does not mean that we stop thinking about the tomorrow, but worrying about it, many people suffer themselves from various diseases, so just focus mainly in today.
Always remember that to complete the 500 km journey, you must first travel 1 meter.
Worst Situation Scenario
Whatever is wrong with you, what could be the worst consequences, think beforehand in your mind, and be ready for it.
You will not have to sit down and think about what will happen if it happens, because now you have already thought about your situation, so now you do not mind what will happen. Whatever happens, you are ready for it.
If a situation has occurred that can lead to your death, then be prepared for that too. Then you will not have to spend your energy worrying about what will happen to you.
Always Keep Yourself Busy
A father has a boy, after which two children are born and both of them died, one child is born and the other dies after 5 days.
The father is filled with a lot of anxiety, the whole day he was just immersed in his anxiety, one day his boy asks him to build a boat.
The father does not have any interest in it, but still he starts building a boat for the child’s happiness and he does not know himself when 2 hours have passed while making it and at that time he completely forgets about his concern.
After that, instead of just sitting and worrying, he completes all his old work and stops worrying.
We should also always be busy with some work, in which a little mind is required, so that we will not think about worry but about the work.
We keep worrying about very small things that you do not bother even a little bit, like:
Someone has told you something, someone has condemned you, how are you looking, what do people think about you, no matter how many things are there, about whom we keep thinking unnecessarily.
Always remember that life is too short to think about very small things.
The Law of Average
Many people do not travel in the aeroplane because they feel that the areoplane is very dangerous and if it crashes then they will die.
But do you know that on an average, only 1 out of 9821 people die on board in an aeroplane.
Whereas, on an average, 1 out of 645 people die during traveling in a car.
If we take an example of the present time, coronavirus is spread all over the world, but instead of being afraid of it, we should see the average number of people dying, which is quite low.
We also worry about such things many times, the chance of this happening is very less, but still throughout the day, just keep thinking about the same.
Many people feel that our heart always works and never stops, but Dr. Walter B. Who is from Harvard Medical School.
They tell us that the heart also relaxes after every contraction and only works for 9 hours in 24 hours a day. Therefore, we should not work continuously throughout the day, but should take some rest in between, so that the mind can relax.
Try to Change
Whenever there is always a mistake, instead of admitting that mistake, we think that I wish I could make that mistake right or I wish that or I with this and so on…
Accepting what has been happened is the first step to come out from anxiety.
Stop Loss Rules
There is a rule in the stock market, to save your loss, you apply a stop loss so that your loss is not more than the limit.
So whenever you think about a situation or thing, think carefully whether you are thinking more than necessary or that is enough now.
Talking can reduce your anxiety to a great extent, so whenever you are in any concern or problem, talk to your friend or someone you trust, tell him all your situation and ask him for some solution too.
Talking will give relief to your mind, so now your mind will have time to think more things and not just worry about one thing all day.
What we learn from this book (How to Stop Worrying and Start Living) summary:
- Worry is the worst poison for stomach.
- Nothing is permanent in this bad world, not even our problem.
- Life is too short to worry about anything, so enjoy it because tomorrow does not promise anything.
- Those who only worry about their dues, if they think about the money they have, then they will stop worrying.
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