What does Growth and Fixed Mindset mean? In this book author Dr. Carol S. Dweck is trying to describe the two different Mindsets of people. Lets understand this book by short summary.
What is Mindset?
The way a person thinks, what is his view of the world, his thinking about luck, hard work and talent, which he has already embedded in his mind, is called that person’s Mindset.
Why are people different?
A person is not different by his color, caste, body shape, or wealth, but because of his Mindset.
That is why some people make such an impact on others, while some despite being so educated, they remain at the same position in life.
In this world, everyone is carrying a different mindset, you also have a mindset, but is it a Fixed Mindset or Growth Mindset?
Growth Mindset and Fixed Mindset
People with a Fixed Mindset have to think that people are talented by birth, and if they have talent by birth, then they do not have to put in so much effort.
There are few people in the world, their physical structure, their appearance, color, etc. are all good by birth.
People with fixed mindset think that if you have the ability, then you will get success on your own. You do not need to work hard, and if you have to work hard it means you are not talented.
For example, if 40% of the numbers had appeared in their 10th class, then they would think in their minds that even the number of classes ahead of them will also be less and that’s why they avoid to take challenges in life.
If you have failed once, then you will continue failed throughout your life, this is the thinking of Fixed Mindset people.
They are jealous and disappointed by the success of others, but never want to work themselves, and think in their mind that if I was able to do that, then I will definitely become successful.
People with Fixed Mindset give up very quickly, always blame their luck on losing.
They never want to change themselves, they think that if I have enough knowledge to get more success then I will get it or else it might not be for me.
Always want to show others how much knowledge, money and enjoyment I have, and proving themselves in front of others is their only goal of life.
They are always afraid to fail, they think that to fail is a sign of failure and not a successful person.
People with Growth Mindset think that no human is born talented and even if it is, it does not mean that he does not need to work or try.
They know that any new thing can be learned with hard work and perseverance. They think if my physical appearance is not so good but with persistent hard work, everything can be achieved.
He is never afraid to fail, considers being a very important part of the Path to Success, and knows that to be failed is a sign of trying.
People with Growth Mindset never let their tomorrow be affected by failure in their past. Rather, learn from past and move forward.
It can happen that someone can do some work with very less time and less effort, but this does not mean that you cannot do that work, maybe you will take more time, but you will definitely do the work.
Do not be jealous of the successes of others, but they are motivated by the successes of others and learn from the mistakes of others so that they do not repeat the same mistake in their lives.
One Position but Two Thoughts
While teaching in a class, the teacher questions a child whose answer is not known to that child.
Fixed Mindset: Hey man! Now what if I do not know the question, what other children will think of me, judge me, and what will the teacher think about me that I do not even know such a simple question, all eyes are staring at me.
Growth Mindset: – Yes, I do not know the answer to this question, but what happened I have come here because I do not know, and the children who are sitting with me have come here also because they do not know everything, and the teacher stands in front of me not to judge me but to teach me.
To be a hero in the film, you have to be a good-looking blonde guy, and if you are short, your color is black, then you cannot become a hero.
The above is the thinking of a person with a Fixed Mindset, but did Nawazuddin think so? No.
Nawaz is a person with a Growth Mindset, if he thinks that you need to look like this to go to the film and only a few people are born to be heroes, not everyone can do it. But keeping all the negative thinking at a side, he worked hard day and night in the office, did any small fat roll in the beginning, all failure was considered a part of success.
Was he a hero since birth? No… But his strong desire to learn has made him such a good actor of the India.
Michael Jordan, who was already quite good in body and stature, like a basketball player.
But is that enough, their length was good, so didn’t they work? Did they think that I am no need to work hard?
No, he worked very hard day and night, thousands of time he failed and after so much failure today his name is famous all over the world.
Shoaib Akhtar’s foot sole is straight, which is called flat foot, according to doctors, whose foot is straight, he cannot run very fast.
If Shoaib Akhtar had accepted in his mind that I cannot become a fast bowler, because I am not physically correct.
But he is a person with a Growth Mindset, he worked very hard and made a record of throwing the world’s fastest ball, which no one has broken till date.
Parents with Fixed Mindset:
Every child runs at his own pace, but the parents of a Fixed Mindset compare their children with other children.
If the child of the neighbourhood is successful, they criticize their children. Just like himself they also wants from his children.
They raise their children in a Fixed Mindset environment, mentioning their body, color, and intelligence and make their children a small and low-minded person.
Parents with Growth Mindset
Parents with a growth mindset know that anything can be achieved in life through continuous learning and hard work and they teach their children the same, they do not compare their children with anyone else.
They do not criticize their children. Despite hard work if children got failed then they praise their children, and motivate them to learn more.
They know that it takes time to get results, it takes time to get success because instant food is always bad.
Mindset in love:
Fixed Mindset Love:
If someone rejects the love of a person with a Fixed Mindset, then he will label himself a failure.
He will feel that maybe due to the some shortage inside him, he has been rejected.
Husbands and wives do not want to make efforts to maintain their love among themselves, they feel that if love is true then there is no need to do any work or improve it.
Growth Mindset Love:
Do not judge yourself by the decisions of others, and know that the relationship needs to be improved.
Partners with Growth Mindset know that no one is perfect, so they do not expect from their partner that he should know that thing or she should know this thing.
In a girl marriage, everything was ready, the bride reaches the place of marriage, then she realizes that her future husband is not coming to the wedding. As everything has been completely ruined, its whole life has gone bad. She is very sad, which is natural.
But she was a girl with a Growth Mindset, she did not let herself dominate that maybe she was lacking or she is not a good girl.
He kept the people with good vibes to himself so that he was happy that negativity would not enter his mind.
A few years later, she was married in the same gown and the same church, to a very nice boy, she was asked that you were scared, she said, of course not, her future husband would definitely come and he came.
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This book has been written by Dr. Carol S. Dweck, an American pshycologist, and also a professor at Standard University.